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The Power of Hypnosis: Transforming Lives and Building Confidence with Elisa Reale

June 07, 2023 • Jenelle Tremblett • Episode 136

#136. Elisa shares how hypnosis transformed her mindset and helped her overcome limiting beliefs that were holding her back. After witnessing the positive impact it had on her and her friends and family, she began to build a business as a Hypnotherapist.

We discuss the challenges of the online business space and the pressure to compare oneself to others. Elisa emphasizes the importance of focusing on one's own journey and not getting caught up in comparisons.

Elisa’s mission is to make hypnosis more mainstream. She encourages listeners to embrace their uniqueness and believe in their abilities to achieve their goals. The episode serves as an inspiration for anyone seeking to overcome self-doubt and pursue their passion.

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Welcome to the ebb and glow podcast. I'm your host, Janelle Tremlett. And I'm a firm believer that even when life doesn't go as planned, it is taking you exactly where you're meant to be on this podcast. I'm here to help you finally release control of what you think you want and begin to just trust in the ebbs and flows of life. Each week, I will show you how to build that positive mindset radiate with self confidence and cultivate an unshakeable resilience. Let me prove to you that even when life ebb. You will glow. Hello everyone. And welcome to episode 1 36 of the Eben glow podcast. My guest today is Elise. Every alley. And we're here to talk to you about building a business changing careers and we also dive into everything about hypnotherapy. So Elisa is a hypnotherapist who helps her clients eliminate anxiety, feel more confident and reprogram their mind for success. Using hypnosis. Alisa chats to us about feeling like she was hiding and holding herself back with in her career. And she was scared to show up online and worried about judgment. And I'm sure anyone who has ever posted on social media for maybe their career or their passions or their interests has felt that same way before. it wasn't until she found hypnotherapy, that she realized it changed her life. And it helped her step into who she always knew she could be and gave her a whole new passion and career that she never could have imagined. Elisa shares, how hypnosis transformed her mindset and helped her overcome limiting beliefs that were holding her back. Throughout the conversation. We also discuss the challenges of building an online business and the pressures of comparing oneself to others. Elisa emphasizes the importance of focusing on your own journey and not getting caught up with the comparisons. And we also highlight the need for self-belief and confidence in achieving success within your business. Overall within this episode, Elisa really emphasizes the transformative power of hypnosis and her mission to make it more mainstream. Alisa encourages listeners to embrace their uniqueness and believe in their abilities to achieve their goals. Overall, this episode serves as an inspiration for anyone seeking to overcome self-doubt and pursue their passion. So without further ado, let's jump into this episode. And if you found value within this episode, make sure to share it with a friend and also reach out to either me or the guests saying that you love the episode. Okay. Enjoy. Elisa, welcome to the show. Thanks for having me. I'm excited. It is crazy to me, knowing that you used to be a real estate agent. Yeah, it feels like a lifetime ago. I mean, it probably wasn't that. Actually, yeah, maybe it was like seven years ago or something like that. But yeah, I was a real estate agent. I actually did pretty well too, but Wow, wow, wow. Everyone pay your realtors at they deserve every dollar they earn. It is so stressful. It is just like a non-stop job and I just like could not detach myself emotionally from like every single deal. It was so stressful for me. I felt like I was always on, I was. Always stressed and obviously I found a much more relaxing career in hypnotherapy, which works for me now. How many years did you do real estate? Uh, A couple, I think Two. And what year did you get licensed? It was a 2013. It was the first thing I did outta university. it was my part-time job all through university. I worked for a real estate agent or like in a real, yeah, at a Remax. I started working at a Reax, like doing reception. So I was kind of like introduced to the whole world a bit that way. So that way, like once I graduated university, I just, It's funny, I didn't use anything I learned in school. I was like, yeah, I'm getting my real estate license. Cause I had already kind of done all of the real training necessary to become a real estate agent. Cause I was working with agents for so many years. Mm-hmm. And I was like, yeah, I could do this. So, I mean, I'm glad I tried it. I definitely feel like I took things from it that I still use now in my business, but yeah, it just wasn't for me. I am so happy that you've seen it from both sides Now, where. you've been the real estate agent before. Now you see like, okay, I see why some people think you guys don't think we do anything, but it's like we hide everything so much behind the scenes because our job as a real estate agent is essentially make sure everyone stays calm because I'm handling all of the fires and the mess behind the scenes. That's it. There's always a fire to put out every single day. Always a fire. There's a new fire, there's a new drama, and yeah, it's a lot. And but to the consumer or to the client, all they're seeing is me. Me or you in the past text or call and be like, offer, accept it. Yeah. It's like you do not know everything that happened to be able to get this done. Yeah. I mean, especially right now, it's like so many offers. Like I actually just bought a house myself a couple weeks ago and there was like 21 offers on the house and like, woo. It was like going through that emotional rollercoaster all over again. But you said last time we talked, your partner is a real estate agent. He is, yeah. So I'm not like totally out of the world. I'm still kind of in it, but yeah. Yeah, obviously there's so much from your real estate business that you learn in terms of building business mm-hmm. That you took into your new career. Mm-hmm. For sure. And it gave you almost the, the playbook a little bit. Yeah. I think like the whole business side of it, like getting clients, the follow up even, I mean the ads, the advertising behind it. Mm-hmm. You know, it all came from, from real estate. I remember when we last talked, what got you interested in hypnosis was, I believe there was another real estate agent that you knew that did hypnosis. Yeah. Okay. So you were intrigued by it. So tell me the story. Yeah, so at the office I was working at, the top agent had done hypnosis because mind you like, yeah, I mean seven years ago I probably thought what everyone thinks of hypno as, it's like that weird thing that people do on stage, like that was it. So then I heard that this guy was, Yeah, the guy who was the top agent that year had done hypnosis and he was previously like really terrified to like, get on the phones, you know, talk to new leads, new clients, which is a huge part of the job. And then so, you know, he went from being terrified. I don't, can't call anybody to. Go being at the top and it's saying like the next year to another woman who was like not doing much the year before, was now like in the top three after doing the hypnosis. So I'm like, okay, I'm ready to drink the Kool-Aid. What is this stuff? Right. Well, you're intrigued. I think whenever you see someone with so much success, you're curious, what are you doing differently that I haven't tried yet? Mm-hmm. And if it's hypnosis at first where you're like, really? No, I'm thinking that's doing this. Like, I was like doing, like I've done my yoga teacher training and like, you know, very into meditation and breath work and all that stuff. So it wasn't too far out for me. But still I was like, yeah, definitely didn't know it the way I do now. I. So that's like my mission in life to make like hypnosis mainstream or as mainstream as meditating. Cuz that's all it really is. It's like one step deeper. So yeah, so I decide I have to try this cuz at the time, like I know I didn't wanna do real estate and I was kind of starting my own business. I was gonna help. business owners to like set up their business online. So setting up their website, setting up their, you know, email funnel, all that stuff, whatever, to create like a, an online business. And I was like doing okay in that, but I definitely was like holding myself back. Like I felt like, you know, I wasn't putting myself out there. I wasn't, you know, posting on, in the videos on Instagram. I was kinda like hiding in my business. But like, you know, expecting all of these clients to just find me somehow so. So yeah, people are like that. Yeah. Yeah. Like just hiding, doing all the behind the scenes. I'm gonna work on my website for a year and then everyone's just gonna find me. So, yeah, I went to to the hypnosis and was just obsessed. I feel like my confidence was like on fire. I just like had new focus and like, you know, it's not like the results instantly came. It's not like, you know, I did a session and boom, all these clients came, but just like. I felt different. Like, you know, my confidence was different, the way that I was showing up was different. And then like, once you feel that shift in yourself, like the results are just inevitable. Like, okay, either it's gonna happen in, you know, a month or a year, but it's like when you have that knowing and that shift in yourself, like the results are just, yeah. Inevitable. yeah. Yeah. When you first signed up to be. To be almost like a, a client of someone that's doing hypnosis. What about you? Were you like, I need to change this about myself? Yeah. It was confidence and my initial thing was like increase confidence, but specifically like in my business with growing my business was the thing. Mm-hmm. And you felt up until that point you've like tried everything or something's not working here. Felt like, I mean, maybe from the outside people would say like, oh, you were always confident and like, yeah, but really, like I knew I was hiding, like I knew I was holding myself back. I knew that I had like limiting beliefs that were like, I wasn't really pushing myself or wasn't really reaching like the goals that I wanted to, like I just, what I felt like I was almost upper limiting myself. Mm-hmm. Yeah. What were those limiting beliefs? Yeah, maybe like no one wants to work with me. I can't start a successful business. You know, things like that. I think things around like creating a successful business, especially something that's a little different, which is funny now. Mm-hmm. Cause like now I have a business that's like way out there different, and it's like, yeah, say whatever you want about me, I couldn't care less anymore. Mm-hmm. But yeah. Because, you know, I mean, in my family, I don't know. No one was really business. I mean, even doing real estate like that was different, but I feel like it's still like somewhat of a like respectable, traditional, traditional career too, versus like, oh, I'm just gonna start an online business, or I'm gonna become a hypnotherapist. Like that's like so different out there. And I was just like, I, I can't do this. Or like, I can't be successful in this was definitely a thing for me. Mm-hmm. I can imagine. There's so many women in the online space of building businesses even around, let me help you with email campaigns. Let me help you with Pinterest. Mm-hmm. I'm a coach. Let me help you with confidence. Mm-hmm. Let me help you with dating, and I'm sure even if someone's in a different industry, I'm sure if you're online creating content at all times, you're constantly watching what everyone else is putting out there. Mm-hmm. And always feeling that you're not doing enough. Did you feel that way? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I mean, Now I've definitely like realized like you can't be everywhere. I mean, yeah, actually right now I probably have like sticky notes somewhere on this desk. Like you have to be on YouTube shorts now too. Yeah, it's a lot. You have to be everywhere. But like just realizing like what I'm doing is enough is I think something I've worked on a lot where it's like, okay, yeah, I still have obviously a million goals I wanna reach, but like I am doing enough to. Do you find we often get caught in the trap of comparing our stage one to someone's stage a hundred of where they're in their business? Yeah, like Instagram for sure makes that so easy because everyone looks like they're at stage a hundred. Like, you know, it's, they've got, I mean, that's a big reason why I created the podcast is because everyone on Instagram paid. No, everyone's got their shed and everyone thinks they're failing in some area of their life. Like no one's got it all figured out. Do you feel like there's a lot of competition within the online space? For sure. I mean, I feel like I don't really feel it so much myself right now cuz hypnosis is, obviously there are other hypnotherapist and there are other hypno. Mm-hmm. On Instagram. But I feel like I've kind of fine found my own little niche and it's like, all right, I'm doing my thing and I'm not so much comparing myself. It's funny actually. I have obviously like a community of. Hypnotherapist that like, you know, we meet on Zoom once in a while and talk about our business, and they were all like, okay, like let's all follow each other. And I even had a moment of like, yeah, I wanna support you and I totally do like on our Zoom calls and our, our outside of Instagram world, but I was like, I honestly don't wanna follow you because then I'm gonna start to listen to what you're saying and compare myself to that and think, oh no, am I sounding too much like them? Or, you know, think about the thing that they said when I'm creating my content. So I was like, Yeah, I kind of like didn't follow. That might be terrible, but for me, like I had to separate myself. Cause like I don't wanna get caught in that. Like thinking about your content when I'm creating my content. A hundred percent. What were some of the initial challenges as you moved into more of the hypnotherapy side, your business and really started promoting? Yeah, I don't know. I feel like, cuz I did it really slowly. Like it was never like, all right, I'm gonna be a hypnotherapist now and I've gotta build this business. Like it was, I started just implementing it with my coaching clients and that's when I was like, oh shit, this really works. Because like, I could do them all, I could teach them all the things about, you know, the tech side and this is how you do this, and you know, they were getting it. But once I did hypnosis with them, it was just like, Yeah. Like the shift happened in them. They were on fire, their confidence was there and they were just figuring it out because the truth is like all that techy stuff, like we live in a world of Google, like you could figure it out. Mm-hmm. If you wanna figure it out, right. Every, all of that stuff is figure outable. Once you have like that belief in yourself, that confidence in yourself, like you'll just figure out. All of the obstacles that are gonna come up inevitably along the way. And then, yeah, I just started doing it for fun. Like on my mom. Like my mom and my best friend were some of my first hypnosis quote unquote clients. And again, even in them, it was just like I didn't, I. Obviously didn't even know what I was doing. They were my first clients. I was like reading from a script I found online, which I don't do anymore. You gotta start somewhere. And they were seeing results. My friend was like, yeah, you know, I, the chips were on the counter. And then, You know, cause for her it was like, I need to stop snacking. She was like, yeah, the chips were on the counter. You know, her partner's always eating snacks at at night. She's like, but I just didn't want it. I was almost disgusted by it. And I was like, oh my God, this works. So then I just posted again for free, not really think, it's so much about like money, making money from it. I posted on Instagram like, you know, Hey, who's interested in doing hypnosis? And I got some people, and then I just kind of built my confidence that way from like, Just doing it for free with people It was just really fun to me at first to like practice this and learn it and see like, okay, wow, this is actually working. And then I kind of just slowly started taking like people as they came, like it was very much just a sign thing. Mm-hmm. Until I got busier or busier. Explain to myself and the audience what is hypnosis and how it works and like explain when you get a client and you get into a session, like what do you do with them? Like what's the mechanisms behind it? Yeah, so the whole state of hypnosis is just a deep relaxed, like alpha level brainwave really. Okay. And the whole reason why we wanna get you into that state is not to like trick you or make you bark like a dog or do weird things like you see on the movies. Like the whole point of getting in that deep, relaxed state is so we can access your subconscious mind cuz you have your conscious mind, which is like right now. Anyone listening is probably a awake in their conscious mind As we're talking, we're very alert in our conscious mind, and we wanna get kind of shut off that racing thinking mind and just speak to your subconscious cuz your subconscious is where your habits, your beliefs, your values, your whole identity. Like it's in your subconscious mind. So that's why people sometimes find it's so hard to make a change cause they're trying to make that change on the conscious level when. Really, like their whole identity is maybe based in this thing that they're trying to change. So their mind is like, well, no, we're not gonna change this. Like, this is who I am. Mm-hmm. Like this is how we've always been. This is safe, this is comfortable. Because your mind isn't really like new, right? It thinks like in a very archaic, caveman way of like, this is working. This makes us safe. So even if this is a bad thing, like I. Watching Netflix for seven hours instead of working on your business. You know, so this thing might not be a good thing, but like, if your brain's like, yeah, this is comfy cozy, I'm, I'm feeling good. We're, we're not putting ourselves out there. We're not putting ourself out there for judgment or failure. Like, you know, I like this. this comfort zone. Your mind loves to stay in your comfort zone, but obviously we want bigger things. I'm sure anyone listening to this has, you know, goals for themselves and wants to improve themselves, so working with your subconscious mind kind of helps to makes these identity shifts. Just feels so much easier, right? It's a lot of identity work and like, you know, who do you want? To be like, my favorite kind of manifesting quote is like, the universe doesn't give you what you want. The universe gives you who you are, so how can you be what you. Want in your life. It's like that whole idea of embodying abundance, you know, before it shows up. Right? Like that's how you attract it to you. Mm-hmm. So when someone starts a session with you, how long are these sessions? Are they just over zoom? Is it almost more like they're just quiet and you're just like reprogramming? It's almost like a, like a spiritual practice preaching a little bit. No. Yeah, so sessions are an hour. And we'll do a lot of like pre-talk first. So it kind of starts off maybe like a traditional therapy session. Because I wanna learn, you know, all about you, what's going on with you, how is this affecting you? In what areas of your life, how would you like to be showing up? Why is this school important to you? You know, who do you have to become? So all of that we, we talk about first. You're definitely not like, Meaning me and I'm like, go to bed. So first we talk about that, and then it's just about getting into Yeah. A deep, relaxed state. I mean, it's really, think of it like a guided meditation. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But you go a little bit deeper. Like everyone always says like, wow, I didn't think I'd be able to relax so deeply. Mm. What that state is like, you're totally awake. You're totally aware. A lot of times I even ask, you know, I'll still be talking to my clients while they're in that state. I'm like asking them questions even you're just very deeply reli. Like it's, hypnosis is a natural state you fall into throughout your day. Like it's that state right when you wake up in the morning or right before you go to bed at night, or if you're really like engaged in a book or a movie, you know? So you naturally go in that state. It's nothing. It's really nothing new. It's just now we're gonna use it in a more productive and like therapeutic way. How many sessions does someone do before they actually see the habits and the actions change? Yeah, so I get people to commit to five sessions. I feel like five is that sweet spot number. Once a week? Yeah, once a week. Maybe the last two will do every two weeks. So five sessions we'll just spread out over like. Seven weeks, within two months, we're done. I feel like people will notice, a shift after even the first or second one. Really. Really? Yeah. Oh, for sure. For sure. Huh? What, what do people come to for most? for me, uh, right now is anxiety actually. Like really? Yeah. It's social anxiety work, anxiety, health. What is it? Just like everything like this, just debilitating stress, overthinking, anxiety. Yeah. So the, and it's almost causing them to not wanna go out anymore. It's causing them to not be able to focus at work. So just like overall anxiety. And it's weird. I feel like, I don't know if it's like this. Post covid, like it's all just catching up with people thing. Cuz a lot of my clients I'm talking to right now, it's like I've just had, you know, I always had anxiety. Maybe, you know, everyone, everyone always has, you know, some level of anxiety, but they're like in the last like it's a feeling. Someone you've felt anxious before you guys. Yeah. But in the last six months or so, I'm hearing from everyone, they're just like, it's just. Debilitating. Like I can't handle it anymore. So it's like, I don't know, I guess, you know, it's like you kind of go through this, like all these traumatic things and changes and then like it all calms down and now it's almost like that moment of like your body is able, cause it's not living in like fight or flight anymore. And now it's like you have a minute to breathe and your mind is like, oh my God, all this. Stuff, what's going on? So anxiety is a big one very recently for me. But also just confidence and like business owners is a big thing. So, you know, working on confidence confide. Yeah. And I feel like for me, cuz that's what I would always talk about cause I would just talk about my experience. So I kind of got clients similar to me or who resonated with me. But yeah, confidence, anxiety are, are the two huge areas. Hmm. What are some of the most fascinating or memorable experiences you've encountered when working with a client and any like transformational stories that you can share? Yeah, I don't know so many. I, okay. I feel like sometimes the funny is the one with your sister and the chips seems the most transformational and it seems so simple. Yeah. Simple. But yeah, transformational. I feel like a funny one kind of, cuz I feel like no matter what initially people will come with like five things they wanna work on, and then even if you just focus on one, or even if they don't tell me about the other four things they wanna work on, it almost just naturally goes into those other areas and helps those other areas as well. Right. So I had one client, like a kind of bizarre thing that she came to me for was, she was like every time, and she was with her partner for a really long time, so she was, she had a partner and she was like, every time he touches me, it's like a giggle, ticklish. Oh, she gets English. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So obviously for like intimacy reasons, she was like, you know, this is weird. What's going on here? So whatever we worked on that issue that was fixed. And then without even telling me, she, cuz she had a business and I knew that she had a business, but we didn't really talk about it much in the sessions cause we were working on this one issue. And then naturally, after one of our sessions, and she told me after the fact, she's like, yeah, I had gotten all this podcast equipment a months ago. I had it hidden in the closet, and I, I just didn't start it. And she's like, after one of our sessions, I just had all of this clarity. I got everything out of the box. I started recording and now like instantly she had this podcast and it was so successful and she was getting clients from like all around the world. Whoa. And so it was like, We just worked on whatever limiting blocks she had. Like with her, it was looking back on like her childhood, like her parents like telling her like, you need kind of need to be this way. Like, you know, especially girls like in the culture she worked with was like, oh, girls do this and nice girls do this and girls will do that and this is what you need to do and you can't do that. And I think, I think that was affecting her in her relationship in her business, and again, putting herself out there more publicly. So, yeah, that's kind of a fun one. I don't know. I'm trying to think of something else. There's so many that's really interesting. And you, a lot of this is linked to limiting beliefs, you say? Yeah, I think that's everything. I think like no matter what the thing is, is like, oh, I wanna stop snacking, or I wanna, you know, be more confident or I wanna, you know, get that promotion. It's really just limiting beliefs. What limiting beliefs do you have? Because your subconscious mind is like programmed. Funny enough from the age of zero to seven. So sometimes, wow. It could be like, you want all these things now and you're doing all the things now, but you know, maybe it's not clicking or maybe it's just not resulting in the results that you want. And it may be because you have these limiting beliefs that like, you know, maybe you. Watched your parents grow up a certain way and it just wasn't the thing, like right, the expression's like money doesn't grow on trees. Or maybe you heard them say you know, people with money are evil or bad, or maybe your parents did own a business and they were working all the time, and you as a seven year old told yourself, well, I'm not gonna do that because I don't wanna, you know, neglect my family. And now you're here and you're working, but you're not making them money. Like, you know, we just make all these weird associations. Sometimes as children without even realizing it. And then once you bring mm-hmm. Like bring awareness to it, it's like, oh yeah, yeah. And then, but like, but that's the thing, once you bring awareness to it, it kind of loses all its power. But until you bring awareness to these things that it's like, oh yeah, maybe that did really shape me or did really shape this belief or identity or value in me. And then once you bring awareness to it, it's like, okay, yeah, we can just flip it. And this is the story, like I'm now gonna choose for the rest of my life. Hmm. I wanna ask you a little bit more about you starting the business and showing up online. So, yeah, have you dealt with any criticism or negative feedback and how do you deal with that? Honestly, I feel like I'm pretty lucky. It hasn't been too, too bad. It's funny on you. What do you mean? Obviously there's something, so, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like on YouTube, but here's funny. I was just saying, yeah, you have to be on YouTube shorts. I feel like some videos, I don't even post a lot on YouTube, but I got like weird comments on YouTube. I don't even remember what they were. Um, One time I did a Zoom not long ago, I did a group free group session, which I do often. So anyone listening, if you're like, what the heck is this hypnosis? Just follow me and come to like a free group session. So for there, right? Like, I don't know who's coming. It's, you know, it's some of my past clients, my friends, my family, but there's also just people, I have no idea who they are. So this guy in the middle of like, this is open, right? Yeah, it's totally open. So everyone's totally relaxed. I'm totally in the zone. And then this guy starts like in the Zoom chat, like, where is this? Where's the watch? I thought this is mind control. What's. Going on right now. I dunno. Just like weird, weird stuff. And I was like in the middle of this, like, oh my god, block, delete. Get outta here. Who are you? They're so strange. So weird. Yeah. Do you get any like people in the comments on social media saying like, this is all a hoax, like this is a scam. Like I feel like, I feel like there's always trolls when it comes to more methodologies like this. You know what I mean? Yeah. Honestly, I haven't in my comments. That's good. I know I'm, I'm probably just like not famous enough yet. I feel like, do you sing Charles is a good thing. Like once you get that big, it's like, oh, the haters are gonna come. I remember in real estate, someone said that to me once it cuz that was about to get sued for something cuz fires are always happening. Really? Yeah. What was the thing? It didn't end up happening, it was just like a realtor threatening to do something. But then I remember like a really successful realtor was like, oh yeah, you're not even. Successful until you've been sued one time. It's like good way to look at it too. Like, you know, like when post mom, it's like, oh, you've really made it. They're like, I was saying to my mom yesterday, because I post on TikTok every single day for real estate and my mom watches all my videos and whatnot. And I said to her, I was like, I can't post a single damn thing without someone having some type of negative comment. Yeah. I haven't posted too much, I guess goes on Instagram. Instagram is where I post like the most. Yeah. And it's kinda like my community, I feel, feel like the community is nicer on Instagram. Yeah, for sure. So it's like a nice safe space. But yeah, as I was saying, I need, I've been thinking I need to be more on TikTok. I need to be more on YouTube. And I'm sure the haters, the trolls will, will come. Yeah. They'll find you. Don't worry. Yes, I've learned to not even be affected by it. Like the video that I posted this morning in one of the listings, I said, I really like the kitchen. And apparently that was wrong. Someone hated the fact that I like the kitchen. I was like, guys, I have a say to my mom. I said, I can't imagine how these people live in their everyday life. If me having a comment about something is gonna affect you that much that you need to make an angry comment. Yeah. Oh my God. I do not wanna be in your close circles. That's for sure. For sure. I mean, that's how I look at it like almost. I don't know what this sounds like bad, but I almost just like really have sympathy for them. Like what the hell is going on in your life that this is all you're doing is going on. TikTok and commenting mean shit on other people's videos. Like, do you literally have no life? What is going on with you? And really like, obviously they're not feeling very good about themselves, if that's all miserable, spending their time doing. Mm-hmm. When you were first getting started and promoting your business online, obviously many entrepreneurs, myself included, experienced a lot of fear and judgment, or even hesitation when you start putting yourself out there. How did you work through that fear to eventually get over that hump and say, no, I have to put myself out there more? Yeah. I mean, I do still have the fear sometimes, like I feel like right now. So like I said, I'm getting more clients with anxiety and so that, for me, that was something that I never really experienced because I feel like before I was just talking about my experience and then I was talking about my clients, it was all like, kind of just natural and easy. Now I feel like I'm maybe talking about bigger issues and things that people have more opinions about. So yeah, I sometimes still feel that fear, like, oh, like who are you to talk about this? Like, you are not a. You know, traditional therapist or you're not a doctor. I mean, I definitely, I still feel that sometimes, but honestly, I just think about my clients. I just think about my clients that I am currently right now helping. It's changing their lives, this work, and so I just think like, if I can post this video and it helps one more person to change their life, like that's all that matters. So it's just like bringing your focus back to like your why. Why are you really doing this? You're obviously not doing this for the trolls or the loser who's gonna comments on your video. You're doing this for a reason. What is that reason? For me, it's like the fulfillment that I get from helping someone who, you know, comes to me and says, I'm currently not going out. I can't drive. I'm, you know, my friends are asking me to go out, but I'm scared I'm gonna have a panic attack when I go out and like them a few weeks later, like, Doing a total 180 like that is my wine. That's like kind of helps me to show up more. That's a strong why. Yeah, and I admire that because that's something I'm struggling in my business right now of like. What is my bigger why within real estate? Because my bigger why within real estate is still pretty selfish. Mm-hmm. It's like, what do I want to achieve? It's like what does this business bring for my personal freedom? It is, you know what I used to think of in real estate too. I mean, cause Yeah, I know in real estate it's very much about your, like your own goals too, but like your clients, like obviously you've helped your clients to mm-hmm. Find the house they're in. You know what I would always think of um, especially cuz in real estate, there's so. So many agents. So you might even have an idea of like, oh, well if they didn't find a house with me, they would've been happy with someone else, right? Because like everyone has their real estate license now. But, uh, truly everyone, truly everyone, but like, think about all of the terrible real estate agents up there because there are so many, they're saving you from them. Saving you from them. That's what I used to think. Cause there are so many agents out there or people who just, especially you know, during Covid were like, oh my God, all these realtors are making a million dollars off of one deal. I'm gonna get my real estate license. And like, just think if that person, if your client goes to that person, all of the terrible things that can happen. Like, you know, really thinking of yourself as like, I am really helping serving this person in what is literally the biggest transaction of their life. Like that is a really important why. Yeah, I'm sure there are things that you do that like other agents wouldn't do, right. Like that. They just don't care. It's so funny, I don't know if you felt this way when you worked in it, but I only recognize how good I am at my job when I'm on either the, the listing side of either a rental or a sale where like other offers are coming into you and you're dealing with more agents. Yeah. And I say to myself, Oh, this is how you run your business. Yeah. This is, this is how you talk to the listing agent and you call, oh, good God. Good luck out there. Good luck. Yeah. And I realize, I'm like, holy crap. Like I, I do my job really well compared to the average agent. You definitely do. I mean, even just the way you like, you know, conduct this podcast like mm-hmm. Like everything you do, like you. Treat it like a business. I think so many people get their real estate license just thinking, oh, I'm gonna do one deal a year and I'm gonna make an extra, you know, tens of thousands. Like it's a business and it's a very important business. Like it requires a lot of things. Oh my. And knowledge and experience and yeah. So just think of, yeah, you're saving people from nightmares. No, I, I feel like I'm, after this, I'm gonna like do a little hypnosis on myself to be like, remember, this is what you're good at, and you know. Mm-hmm. Oh my goodness. What do you think people's misconceptions are about hypnosis when they first hear about your business and what you promote and everything? Everything. Yeah. I think everyone, everyone just needs to totally drop everything that they think about it. Like I've almost myself thought about like, should I start labeling it something else, like other than hypnosis? Mm-hmm. Like give it my own title or spin or something. But like, I really do just want people to drop all of those mis. Conceptions. It really just is like deep meditation and reprogramming your subconscious mind. I mean, even that maybe sounds a little woo for a lot of people, but that's what you're doing. Your subconscious mind, until you make your unconscious thoughts conscious, they will control your life. So that's all we're doing is we're getting more aware of, more clear, what are the thoughts, the limiting beliefs that are holding you back in your life, and how can we reprogram them, rewire them, so that you are showing up, feeling more light, more carefree, more confident, more calm, and whatever it is you wanted to. Hmm. Was your partner really supportive of you switching to this? Yeah. Yeah, I mean it's definitely weird and I mean, it was definitely like real estate. You're gonna give up this amazing career. Yeah. Yeah. And I, I'm sure, cause he probably felt like we could be a power team, like we're in a relationship. Yeah. And I'm sure a lot of his dreams and goals probably wouldn't the window if you wanted to go a different path. Yeah. You know, I think he's, he is learned by now that I'm gonna do what I wanna do, so he definitely didn't try to stop me. That's good. That's good. What about your friends and family? Yeah. Yeah, I mean I've done kind of done it with some, yeah, I've not many, but I've done it with some of them. So the ones who like get it and have tried it, they're like, oh yeah, this is great love. And they're like totally on board and promoting it. I mean, I don't really try to push it on any of friends or family, like, you know, I think most of my friends and family don't really understand what I do and they never will, and I'm totally fine with that. It's not for them, right? Like it's not gonna be for everybody. Again, like coming back to my clients and the people that I do help, like that's what this is about. You know, if my uncle or cousin or friend from high school thinks like, oh wow, Eli's really like off her rocker. What the hell is she doing? Like that? Don't really care. Yeah. Yeah. do you find it hard to show up on social media every day when maybe you are not even having a good day? Yeah. So I'm trying really to batch content more. Yes, I have to even, not even having a bad day, but just even like not having the time. Yeah. Not even being in the mood for it to like show up and talk about this right now. So yeah, batching content is like even just one week out I feel is really helpful. That's all I do. Yeah, just how this, yeah. I match all my content. I posted a, a video tour of a place the other day and someone commented, and mind you, I viewed the place Tuesday and obviously it's probably sold by like Sunday, right? But like, I viewed the place Tuesday, I think, posted the video, I think Saturday. And they were like, why are you posting videos of places that are already sold? And I commented, I said, I don't create content in the moment. Yeah, and there's a bunch people actual business. Yeah, like actual clients. That's why this didn't happen in real time buddy. Oh, it's so funny. A bunch of people like my comment cuz like obviously they get it. But yeah, I do the same where I batch content. All my TikTok content I make on one day. Yeah. So that like literally this morning right before we got on this podcast, I posted a video that I created last week. Yeah. And so today or tomorrow, I'm gonna create all the content for like the next week. Yeah. Yeah. You have to. Cause you're not gonna, it's the same thing with like, wake up most days and not be in the mood. Your face is gonna be inflamed. You're going to get bad news and you can't just show up online every single day. Yeah. Yeah, no batching content has really, really helped. Even just one week out, I feel like anymore. That's all I do. Then like batching becomes overwhelming too, so like just one week of content. One week out. I, it's, I've been doing that for, I don't know, probably six to seven months now. And it really helps. It's tough when I try to go on vacation and need to batch longer than that, where I'm like, Ooh, no. Like, this is a lot of work to be able to go away on vacation and not think about it. Yeah. And I don't know, I mean, sometimes I'm not perfect. Like sometimes I'll be on a roll, I'll post every day or almost every day and then sometimes, you know, I disappear for a week. It, you're human. Yeah. I hate when people like apologize to Instagram or TikTok. Like, sorry guys, I've been away, or sorry guys I've had. Who are you apologizing to? Like who are you apologizing to? Like no one noticed way possible. Yeah. Like, I mean that with respect for sure. Cause yeah, I think even when I said that sometimes I'll disappear for a week, it's like, I'm like, how could you, but like, Nobody, like, I don't notice. Even the people who I maybe do follow their content every single day, I'm not gonna be like, oh my God, how unprofessional. Where did she go? She doesn't have any video. I'm literally not even gonna notice. I know. We definitely put so many unnecessary stress and deadlines on ourselves when running a business. Yeah. Yeah, so batch if you can, and if you fall off because you're on vacation or you got sick or you just whatever, recorded, enjoying your life a little bit more, it's okay. Come back whenever you come back. I've definitely accepted that. Mm-hmm. What do you find are the biggest struggles within your business that you're dealing with today? Maybe even some limiting beliefs that are coming up, or even just struggles where you're like, I don't know how to get to this next step. Like, what do I, what do I do next? You know? Yeah. I don't know if it's too specific, but right now, Google ads, Google ads are driving you crazy. No. Like, yeah, I'm getting the, the people, but they're not showing up to their free consultation. So it's like, oh, so something is going on with like the email? No, well, I mean, they're getting the reminders and I think, I think cuz like on, again, on Instagram, it's like more of a community. So I think when people book with me, like they already know me and it's like they're already sold. Yeah. They're already committed. Like even if it's only, they're only booking a free consultation with me. Like they're, they know what they're signing up for and they're pretty much mm-hmm. Ready to start. They just wanna, you know, maybe ask a few questions, which is cool. Right. That's why I offer the consultation. But yeah, right now I'm doing Google Ads and it's like I've gotten really great clients, but it's also just been such a time waste for me because I have these people who are like booking my calendar and then they just don't show up. And I'm like emailing and calling them like, Hey, did you not get the link? Are you running late? And they're just like, Totally ghosting me. No answers. Weird. So it's weird. Yeah. So I don't know what I need to do. I obviously need to switch up the process a little. Maybe just get them to like fill out a form first. Maybe provide more video, like another video on there, or like a video. Gets sent to them like, so they feel like they kind of know me a little bit more. Cause I guess to them it's just like they just filled out this random form on the internet and like they don't really care. They're not really committed. But like for me, it's my time and I just think like, yeah, could have been like someone else's time slot and now I'm just like sitting here. Great for you now you just have an empty time slot yet. Yeah. So yeah, that's kind of a thing that I'm doing right now. Cause especially like if I can get more clients without. Having to show up so consistently, like I'll always post. I actually do enjoy creating content, but I think when you have that pressure of like, oh, I've gotta pump out content, like it's my job, it's a lot. So yeah, Google Ads has been helpful in bringing in new clients, but I've kind of gotta figure that out. This no-show problem. Do you enjoy the part of your business where you are building the business in terms of figuring out Google Ads, figuring it out, bringing new clients, or do you aspire for a time where all of that is sorted out in the back end and you get to just show up, create content, and be with your clients? I kind of do like it actually. Like cuz I have, it's the problem solving I, well, no, like I have a marketing background too, like it's what I, yeah, it's like what I was doing part-time too, like at that real estate office, like I was doing their marketing. So like, I don't know. I do actually enjoy. That stuff, like figuring out Google ads, like creating content Instagram reels, like I, I like it, I enjoy it. Obviously it gets stressful when Yeah, you're trying to like, create 10 reels. but otherwise I, I do enjoy it. So that's why I was thinking if I can have a flow. and then I'm creating content and it is more like just the way that I want to or when I want to, like, I think that would be perfect. I think another challenge for me actually, that I thought of that's even bigger is trying to help. On more of a group or scale way, because right now working one to one is like, it's working, it's great, but how can I do this in more of maybe like a group program, so that way it's not. Expensive for people too, because I mean, there are people who like can't really make that investment in themselves to work one-on-one with me. So I wanna create maybe more like a lower ticket items for people who are like, okay, I wanna do this work, but maybe I'm not ready for that. Like one-to-one commitment or investment. So I am working on some things to do that. I don't know exactly what I'm gonna do. What parts of your business bore the hell out of you? Like they drain you? Mm. Like scheduling people and I mean, I have like a Calend lead too, so it's not that hard. But even just like, yeah, scheduling, rescheduling, you know, cause things come up, oh, I had to cancel and then I've gotta figure this out. Like I just, Ugh. Mm-hmm. I'm like, when is an ai? I mean, I think there is, and I think that's why I said ai. Cause someone's like, yeah, there's an AI that will completely run your calendar. But I still feel like I'm not gonna trust it. Like it's not gonna know that. Like I just don't want a client at that time. But sometimes I want a client at that time. But like, you know, no, I feel you that, yeah. So if an calendar creating the perfect schedule for me where I have time for me and my clients and my content and my everything. Yeah. No, a hundred percent. I want to ask you a couple final questions. initially, when we were getting ready to record, I basically asked you like, okay, when you look back at all of the changes you've had in your life, because you've had a lot of job changes, you were a real estate agent, you've had a lot of like mix of jobs throughout your life, but then you say like, With what I have now. It all makes sense. Yeah. And when I asked you like, why is your life better? Like what makes you glow, you said like, I'm happy for all the bumps along the way that led me to where I am today. Like every old job. Mm-hmm. Business prepared you for what you do now. Can you give a little bit more insight into that? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I've done other jobs that I, I, I got my mortgage license. What else did I do? I like, was this close to like opening a spa with my cousins? Like so many things. And honestly, I don't regret any of it because yeah, it just made me realize what I do like, and I feel like you don't know what you love to do until you maybe try a few things. And I feel like I would've never found hypnosis if I just settled in. Whatever. The first thing I did was right, like you're not gonna figure it out until you try some things. So yeah, I think you have to try some things and be okay with failing and be okay with starting over Sometimes like I think the idea of like, go to school, pick a job, and then stay in that job for the rest of your life. It's just wild. It's crazy. Sometimes that works for people, but other times we, we get so much pushback when when you're the type of person that you don't, haven't figured out, quote unquote, or haven't figured out that passion of yours until like you're in your thirties. We get a lot of pushback of like not figuring it out yet, but I think it makes you a lot more of a stronger person and. Like almost failure resistant, a little bit and resilient. Once you finally get to that point of seeing like, oh, okay, I see all of those things that didn't work out for me. I see why they had to happen for me to get to where I am today. You know? A hundred percent. Yeah. Even what you just said, but like finding your passion. Like I remember that you still like annoy the crap out of me like in my twenties, like I dunno, my passionate. And so, but like, I mean, I did all of the things to kind of get me here and I feel like I had to go into real estate and I had to try my coaching business and I had to, you know, do all of the things. Even my yoga teacher training and I did definitely pick up traits and, you know, characteristics and skills from all of those things that like now I have found it like, yeah, I love hypnosis. Like this is my passion. I love my work, but like it took. It took lots of bumps in the road to get here. So I think if you're in the bumps in the road, just, I don't know, enjoy the journey. You gotta learn to enjoy the journey and know that like it's all gonna work out. I agree. Yeah. Elisa, what are some final last words around if someone's thinking like, okay, something's not working in my life, I seem like I have no control over my decisions and everything is just, it seems like the world is controlling it and I'm not, and maybe they're listening to this episode and they're like, huh, hypnosis, okay, maybe I'll try that. But they're a little bit hesitant. Yeah. So what's some little bit of encouragement that may make them want to try this out? Yeah. Well, one, you're living in a victim mentality and you are the creator of your reality. Once you realize that, once you hack that part of your mind, that you realize you are the creator of your reality, whatever. Thoughts you believe your mind will filter out in the world to see those opportunities? Right. So if you think the world is full of problems, your mind will literally filter the world for problems. Like it's your reticular activating system. It's that part of their brain where like, you know, if you get a new car, suddenly you see that car all over the road. That car was always there. That same amount of cars was always there. You're just noticing it now because it's. Brought up in your awareness. So what are your beliefs? What are your core beliefs about yourself, about the world? Once you can reframe those into a way that's more productive for you, more serving for you, and you're confident in those, your whole world is gonna change. So that didn't really answer your question, but yeah, you can book a free consultation a little bit. Yeah. Okay. You can book a free consultation with me. I have some free downloads if you go on my Instagram or. Website you can download some free things. It's. I mean, once you, yeah, once you realize that like you are the creator of your reality and that your mind, your beliefs aren't in charge of this, it's just a no-brainer. Like, I, I have to get a control of this. And hypnosis is the fastest, most effective way to do that because like I said, you're working with your subconscious mind. So that's how people are able to see the results so quickly and like, Such big transformations in such short periods. Alisa, how can everyone connect with you after this episode? Yeah, so follow me on Instagram uh, it's just at Alisa Reality. You can go to my website, alisa reality.com. Yeah, I've got some free downloads there. Book a free consultation if you wanna learn more. Yeah, send me a dm. I would love to chat your website's. Very beautiful. Like I said, the first time we met, I love it. Thank you. Last but not least. I always do this thing at the beginning of every week where I pick a word of my week to set an intention. So given that this episode is very like you're the creator of your own reality, I'm curious what your word of the week is. Oh, wow. Embodiment. Embodiment. Why? Because it's something I've really been practicing too, like walking meditations now, like I feel like I haven't done a seated meditation or even a hypnosis, which is funny for me in like a month I've been doing these walking meditations cuz it's teaching the idea of like, I. Walking and embodying the feeling like as you move through your life, because like, you know, we can meditate and like, yeah, I feel calm, I feel present, but how can you embody that feeling as you walk through your life, as you go through your day? So whatever it is you wanna work on, whether it's feeling more calm, more present, maybe you wanna, you know, bring in more money, more clients, like whatever it is, what does that feel like? So having whatever goal you want. Imagine if you have that goal, what would that feel like? Like you just achieved everything you want to. What would that feel like? What does abundance feel like? What does success feel like? What does love, if it's finding that relationship, feel like, really get clear on that. Not just the thinking of it, but the feeling of it specifically. Like literally feel it in your body. What does it feel like? Are you getting goosebumps? Are you getting chills? Do you feel like you know, Feel that feeling in your body and how can you move through your day with that feeling like that is embodiment and that is what is gonna attract that to you. Cause you're not gonna attract abundance when you're feeling lack. You're not gonna attract love when you're feeling like hate for yourself. so, you have to embody the feeling of what you want in order to attract it to you. So embodiment is my word for sure. That's really strong. On that note, Elisa, thank you so much for being here. I feel like I just went through a little hypnosis right at the end, which is like prime, prime, prime way to end the episode. So thank you so much for being here. It's been a pleasure. Beautiful. Thanks for having me. Did you know that I'm not only a podcast host, but in my full-time career, I met Toronto based real estate agent. If you are someone, you know, is a busy professional looking to get into the Toronto real estate market, I highly recommend reaching out to me. You can go directly to my website@wwwdotjenelletremblant.com. And you can click the let's talk button to book a call with me. I work with buyers, renters, and sellers in the downtown and east end areas. So don't hesitate to reach out to me and I would love to help you find your next home. And in the meantime, we'll see you here back next week.